Welcome to Cassie’s Monthly Blog, a safe space for women, mothers, and families seeking emotional healing, spiritual growth, and truth rooted in God’s Word.

Every month, we talk openly about:

Breaking generational cycles

Healing from emotional and spiritual wounds

Faith during hard seasons

Identity in Christ

Motherhood, purpose, and transformation

Spiritual warfare and deliverance

Living boldly as a believer in today’s world

If you’ve ever felt unseen, unheard, overwhelmed, or stuck—
this space was created for you.

Here, we walk through truth, not silence.
Healing, not hiding.
Freedom, not fear.
Christ, not shame.

Healing from Sexual Trauma: Taking Back What the Enemy Tried to Steal

Sexual trauma has a way of trying to silence your voice, reshape your identity, and bury the truth of who you are. It wounds the body, shakes the mind, and attacks the soul. But here’s the part the enemy never wants you to discover: you can heal, you can rise, and you can take your power back through Christ.

This is not a gentle whisper today.
This is a war cry.
A declaration.
A reminder that your story does not end where your trauma began.

Let’s walk through this boldly, with both truth and strategy.

1. Trauma is not your identity.

Sexual trauma often tries to rewrite the narrative of who you are.
It tells you:

“You’re dirty.”
“You’re unworthy.”
“You’re broken.”
“You’ll always carry this.”

But trauma is NOT identity — it’s an experience. A wound. A violation. Something that happened to you, not something that defines you.

Truth:
“For we are God’s masterpiece…” (Ephesians 2:10, NLT)

God never stopped calling you His masterpiece — even on the days you felt shattered.

2. The body remembers what the mind tries to forget.

Sexual trauma can live inside the body long after the moment is over:

flinching
freezing
shutting down emotionally
avoiding intimacy
anger that comes out of nowhere
self-protection that feels like survival

This is not weakness.
This is your body protecting you.

As a teacher and a mentor, hear me:
Your reactions make sense in light of your story. Healing begins when you stop shaming your symptoms and start understanding them.

3. Shame is the enemy’s silent weapon.

Shame says, “Hide.”
God says, “Come to Me.”

Shame says, “You’re ruined.”
God says, “You’re restored.”

Shame says, “It was your fault.”
God says, “I saw it, and it was never your fault.”

Shame keeps you silent so the enemy can keep you bound. But the moment you expose shame to the light — through confession, community, counseling, or prayer — shame loses its grip.

Scripture reminds us:
“And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:32, NLT)

The truth is your weapon.
Your voice is your weapon.
Your healing is your weapon.

4. Healing is spiritual AND emotional.

Sexual trauma affects all layers of a person:

Spirit (identity, worth, purity, connection with God)
Soul (mind, emotions, beliefs)
Body (physiological responses, triggers, memories)

That means healing must also address all three.

Spiritually

Break agreements with lies.
Reject shame.
Declare the Word of God over your identity.
Invite the Holy Spirit into every wound.

Emotionally

Therapy.
Support.
Boundaries.
Processing triggers.
Grieving what was taken.

This is not a one-time prayer.
This is a journey of reclaiming territory.

5. You have spiritual authority to reclaim what was stolen.

The enemy violated your innocence, your trust, and maybe even your sense of safety.

But he did NOT destroy your purpose.

There is a difference between damage and destiny.
One is temporary.
The other is eternal.

You have the authority to say:

“I break every lie spoken over me.”
“I refuse to carry guilt that is not mine.”
“My body belongs to God, not trauma.”
“I will not pass this pain to my children.”
“I take back my voice.”
“I take back my identity.”
“I take back my mind.”

This is what generational curse–breaking looks like in real time.

6. God heals the memories you don’t talk about.

You know those moments that hit you out of nowhere?
The flashback you thought you buried?
The nights you wake up shaking?
The panic you can’t explain?

God sees what happens inside you when nobody else does.

Instead of asking Him to help you forget, ask Him to help you heal.

God does not erase your story — He redeems it.

7. Your healing is dangerous to the enemy.

Because a healed woman becomes:

a cycle breaker
a generational transformer
a truth-teller
a guide for others
a weapon in the Kingdom

This is why the attacks came.
This is why the enemy worked overtime.
This is why you felt alone.
This is why the warfare increased when you started healing.

Hell fears what you are becoming.

8. You are not alone — you are rising.

Healing from sexual trauma is messy. Some days feel like progress; others feel like setbacks. But every step counts.

Every boundary is healing.
Every prayer is healing.
Every journal entry is healing.
Every therapy session is healing.
Every scripture spoken out loud is healing.
Every moment you choose truth over lies is healing.

You are not weak.
You are rebuilding.
You are reclaiming your body, your voice, your faith, and your future.

You are becoming the woman God always saw — even when you couldn’t see her yet.

You Are Not the Trauma — You Are the Testimony

And somebody needs your voice.
Some daughter needs your story.
Some mother needs your survival.
Some woman needs your freedom.

Your healing is not just for you — it is for the generations coming after you.

Rise boldly, warrior.
You are taking back what the enemy tried to steal.

12/01/2025

Not Perfect, But Still Chosen

Let’s be real for a second.

We don’t always get it right.
Some days, we’re doing our best just to make it through without breaking down.
We lose our patience. We slip up. We say things we wish we could take back.
And sometimes… we fall right back into the things we swore we were done with.

But even in all of that — God hasn’t changed His mind about you.

That’s what I love about Him.
He’s not looking for perfection.
He’s looking for your heart.

You can stumble 10 times, cry out to Him on the 11th, and He’s still going to say,
“I’ve been right here, daughter.”

“For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard.”
— Romans 3:23 (NLT)

He already knew we’d mess up. That’s why Jesus came.
So stop disqualifying yourself from a race that grace already qualified you for.

You ever notice how the enemy gets real loud after you mess up?
“See, you’re not really changed.”
“God can’t use someone like you.”
“You knew better.”

Lies.
Every single one.

“Though they stumble, they will never fall, for the Lord holds them by the hand.”
— Psalm 37:24 (NLT)

We don’t fall out of His love just because we slipped.
We don’t lose our purpose because we had a bad day or a weak moment.

And honestly? Sometimes the fight to stay focused on God is daily.
But that’s okay — because He sees the fight.
He sees the heart behind the struggle.

“Let us run with endurance the race God has set before us. We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus…”
— Hebrews 12:1-2 (NLT)

So I don’t care if today was hard, if yesterday was messy, or if this week you felt like giving up —
Don’t stop looking toward Him.
Even if you’re crawling, even if your prayers are silent tears — just don’t stop.

God’s not expecting you to have it all together.
He just wants you to keep coming back to Him.

You’re not perfect.
But you’re still His.
Still chosen.
Still called.
Still becoming the woman He’s shaping you to be.

Keep going. You’ve got this — and He’s got you.

Love,

Cassie

11/01/2025

When the Struggle Feels Too Much: Finding God in the Shadows

I’m going to be honest—there have been times when I’ve felt completely disconnected from God. Moments when I struggled to believe His promises were still for me, moments when life’s weight made me question everything. Writing Through the Shadows: A Journey of Faith wasn’t just about sharing my story; it was about working through those moments, those raw, painful times when I doubted if I was still walking in His alignment.

When you’re in the middle of a struggle, it’s so easy to lose sight of His promises. You start asking, Why me? or Where are You, God? I’ve been there. I’ve felt that crushing discouragement that whispers, You’re not enough, or worse, God’s forgotten you. I’ve been angry, frustrated, and even numb.

One of the hardest lessons I’ve learned is that faith isn’t about never feeling lost—it’s about trusting God while you feel lost. That doesn’t mean I don’t still struggle. There are days when I feel overwhelmed and completely out of alignment with what I know God has called me to. But even in those moments, He reminds me—sometimes through a verse, a song, or just a quiet nudge—that He hasn’t gone anywhere.

One verse I keep coming back to is Isaiah 41:10: “Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Those words carry me when I feel like I can’t keep going.

If you’re feeling discouraged right now, I want you to know it’s okay. It’s okay to feel tired. It’s okay to question. It’s okay to not have it all together. But don’t let the shadows keep you from reaching for the light. God’s promises don’t change just because we’re struggling to believe them in the moment.

Here’s what I’ve found helpful when I’m in that place:

Talk to Him, even if it’s messy. Some of my most honest prayers have been me telling God exactly how I feel—hurt, angry, disappointed. He can handle it.

Remind yourself of His faithfulness. Look back at moments in your life when you know He showed up. Those reminders can reignite hope.

Let yourself be human. You don’t have to have perfect faith all the time. God’s love isn’t dependent on your perfection—it’s constant.

If you’re walking through a hard season, know you’re not alone. I’m walking through it too. And even when it feels impossible, I believe God is still working, still guiding, still holding us up.

Let’s walk through the shadows together, trusting that His light is ahead.

With love,

Cassie

10/01/2025

Let’s be real—life gets messy. It’s not always sunshine and rainbows; sometimes, it’s more like a full-blown hurricane that leaves you gasping for air. I’ve been there—more times than I’d like to admit. Moments when everything feels out of control, and I’m just begging for some kind of relief.

But here’s what I’ve learned: storms are a part of life. They’re not random, and they’re not pointless. Sometimes, they’re the only way God can get our attention or shake loose the things we’ve been holding on to for far too long.

When I was writing Through the Shadows: A Journey of Faith, I kept coming back to one truth: you don’t have to face the storm alone. There’s a calm available to you, even when the winds are raging and the waves are crashing. It doesn’t come from pretending the storm isn’t there or willing yourself to “just stay strong.” It comes from trusting God—even when trusting feels impossible.

When the Storm Hits
If I’m honest, I don’t always handle storms well. My first instinct is usually to panic, complain, or try to fix everything myself. I’ll cry out, “God, why me? Why now?” But over time, I’ve realized that storms have a purpose. They show us who we really are and where we’re placing our trust.

It’s hard to admit, but I’ve placed my trust in all the wrong things before—my own strength, other people, even distractions to numb the pain. But God has a way of stripping all of that away in the storm, not to hurt us, but to remind us that He’s the only anchor we truly need.

How I Stay Calm (Even When I Don’t Feel Calm)
Staying calm in the storm isn’t about ignoring your feelings or pretending everything’s fine. It’s about choosing where you place your focus. Here’s what has helped me:

Get Real with God:
I’ve had some raw, ugly cries with God during storms. And guess what? He can handle it. He doesn’t need me to have it all together; He just needs me to come to Him. When I pray, even if it’s messy or full of questions, I feel that peace—the kind only He can give.
Focus on the Bigger Picture:
This one’s hard for me, but I try to remember that the storm won’t last forever. When I look back on past struggles, I see how God used them to grow me or prepare me for something better. It doesn’t make the storm easy, but it reminds me that there’s a purpose in it.
Find Gratitude in the Small Things:
Even in the worst storms, there’s something to be thankful for. Maybe it’s a kind word from a friend, a moment of quiet, or just the fact that you made it through another day. Gratitude shifts my focus from what’s wrong to what’s still good—and that changes everything.

Walking Through the Shadows
If you’re in a storm right now, I want you to know you’re not alone. I’ve been there, crying in the dark, wondering if things would ever get better. But God doesn’t leave us in the storm. He walks with us through it, teaching us to trust Him, even when we can’t see the way forward.

The same God who calms the seas can calm your heart. It doesn’t mean the storm will disappear overnight, but it does mean you can have peace in the middle of it.

So, take a deep breath. Whisper a prayer. And remember, the storm doesn’t define you—your faith does.

With love and understanding,
Cassie

09/01/2025

Feeling Unworthy? God Says You’re More Than Enough

Have you ever felt unworthy of the work God has called you to do? I have. When I first started planning out what I believed was His purpose for my life, doubts crept in:
“Who am I to take on this task? How could God use someone like me?”

I wrestled with these feelings of unworthiness for a long time. I wondered if I was strong enough, wise enough, or faithful enough to carry out His plan. The enemy was loud, constantly reminding me of my flaws and past mistakes. But God was louder. He reminded me of this truth:

"God is within her, she will not fall; God will help her at break of day."
— Psalm 46:5 (NIV)

This verse became my anchor. It reminded me that my strength didn’t come from me—it came from Him. The doubts I felt, the times I thought I wasn’t good enough, were just distractions. God had already equipped me with what I needed; I just had to trust Him.

The Power of Knowing Who’s Within You

When I felt weak, I learned to lean on Him. When I doubted myself, I reminded myself that it’s not about my worthiness—it's about His grace. The same God who created the universe is the same God living within me. And if He’s called me to something, He’ll provide the strength and guidance I need to fulfill it.

Here’s what I want you to know today:
You are worthy, not because of what you’ve done, but because of who He is. His Spirit within you makes you capable, strong, and prepared for the purpose He’s laid on your heart. Don’t let self-doubt stop you from stepping into your calling.

Let’s walk this journey together, reminding ourselves that greater is He who is within us than he who is in the world (1 John 4:4). We’re not alone in this fight, and with God on our side, we can’t lose.

Stay encouraged,
Cassie

08/01/2025

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